Hi folks..
I know its been awhile… busy busy as ever…
Our story is a twisty turny thing that seems to have a life of its own… at the end of my last post we had given up on Access to Work doing any more than helping with transport costs. We where still waiting to here from the DWP about PIP this was in March we had been waiting since September…
We where also waiting to find out if J was going to be made redundant… all on top of waiting for our sons SEN assesments three yrs and counting…
my fibro… J’s cancer  and looking after our son with SPD…
So now in the middle of August where are we and whats going on…

Well at the begining of April J was told he would be made redundant but would have work to the end of June… all the time working in a job that required him to be standing on his leg and in pain…(I have some choice words id like to say to them, they basicaly tortured him and set his recovery back possibly perminanely for eight months then kicked him out… grrrr)… At the tail end of April they told J he wouldnt be working through till june and he left the company at the end of the month… his redundancy package was all over the place and he was not paid when he was told he would be plunging us in to further debt… however temporary… at the begining of May he got the first half of his redundancy and we where able to sort most of our over due payments, paid and caught up on things we had got behind on when he had been off sick after the surgery.

At the begining of May J saw his consultant who thought he may have to have more surgery the prostetic knee joint seems to have malfunctioned very rare apparently… to be honest we are running out of rare things that can happen… (touch wood) we have to wait now to find out what, when, and if he has to have more surgery…

Towards the end of May J got a letter from the DWP apologising for the delay in his PIP assesment decision…not the letter we wanted after nearly nine months…

A couple of weeks later we had the decision through… low rate care and low mobility both of which would have been high rate if hed been assesed when he applied… but not to put a dampener on it… the backdated pay helped pull us out of a pit and has helped take the weight off of us trying to get through our driving tests… as J can no longer cycle… or walk very far… and neither can I…

So here we are in the middle of August J has had all his redundancy and is free off the company…
We are no further forward with our son’s assesments nothing has been done in the last few months… all his refferals to the social pathway, computer specialist and child mental health team have not materialised yet nor have we had the final report from the sensory pathway…

J has applied for several jobs some of which put him through to the final rounds but he heard no more after disclosing his medical history… (this makes me so angry he just wants a job any job he can do)…this has been getting him down and by way of trying to cheer him up I went in to a local new age shop and asked if they would stock prints of his work if I could convince him they wanted them… they loved them and asked me to tell him to get some to them asap… you can see his work here. So that’s one possible outlet or alternative work option.
And im still trying to keep it all together… the garden needs doing the bathroom needs decorating and im all out of spoons…

At the end of July I passed my driving test yay and J spent some of his precious redundancy getting some prints done at a fabulous printers called Monkey Puzzle Art Printers on the north coast of Cornwall, lovely supportive people who loved J work and helped me to convince him he can make money at this…

J is now in the process of setting up a blog and websites FB stuff as well as producing works he’s hoping to sell at some point…

Now for the bad news, J has had to put his job searching on hold because at the beginning of September he has to go back in to hospital to have two further big ops… The first will involve the Drs removing all of J prosthetic bone implants and prosthetic knee… Because it’s not working…They will implant a spacer and antibiotic cement to keep his lower leg attached to his upper leg for six weeks while they blast his body with an intense course of antibiotics to try to kill the MMSA bone infection he got during his first surgery… Then he will go back in and have new bone implants and prosthetic knee joint put back in… They have to be new to eradicate the infection… They need to get rid of the infection not only so J doesn’t die but also because it’s causing bone necrosis at the prosthetic join which is causing further problems with his prosthetic… He is at time of writing still cancer free so we hang on to that…

So job hustings on hold as we all hold our breath and preparing for the roller coaster ride to start all over again, this will reduce his ability 100% and we’ve just learned he no longer qualifies for ESA as my earnings and Working tax credit just scrapes over the 7,000 a yr limit… any more good news?

In the mean time we are trying to have as much family time as possible just I case 😦 and finishing the decorating and the garden as well as helping my mum decorate her hall… Sigh oh and I was diagnosed with ME as well as Fibro… If the gods are listening I’m still trying to hold it all together some help would be appreciated and I don’t need any double edged blade learning lessons about being careful what I wish for… We just wanna get through and still be a family surviving the onslaught on the poor and working classes by this government like we don’t have enough worries…

Take care everyone… Dxxx

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